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Thursday, June 19, 2008

Love and Loss

For Christmas, I gave Mom a special calendar for mothers from Blue Mountain Arts. Each month features a different poem.

Mom didn't turn the page for June for at least a week. She told me she wouldn't, because the subject would make us sad. The poem for this month is titled "The Love Between a Mother and Child Is Forever" by Barbara Cage.

I won't copy the entire poem here--find it if you can--but it helps me remember the good times Jolene and I shared, and reminds me of things I could have done better. A whistle blew, ending our time together before I was ready.

Cage says, "It is a love of the present, interwoven with memories of the past and dreams of the future." Oh, Jolene, how I wish I had a future here on this earth with you.

However, in a strange sort of way, the wellspring of my grief affirms the depth of my love. If I did not love Jolene, I would not miss her so. Loving leaves us vulnerable to pain, and I would not have it any other way.

Footnote: Cindy Hickey reviewed Gunfight at Grace Gulch today at Fun Cozy-Mysteries and Riveting... -


Mary Connealy said...

It seems like one of the fundamental 'rules' of romance is that you can't love without risking great pain.
The reason that works so well is because it's a basic truth.

Darlene Franklin said...

My first romance (Romanian Rhapsody) illustrated that ... my hero Steve's big problem was getting over the death of his first wife. I captured his grief although at that time I hadn't experienced it in any real way myself, not yet.

Hope Chastain said...

Thank you so much for commenting on my blog. I wish I'd had blogging when my dad was dying. I did have online story writing, so that helped, but I wasn't blogging about real life.

I pray the Lord will comfort you and use you to bless others!

And Mary, you're right about love always carrying the risk of pain. I think I need to play that up in my current romance, because my cp says there isn't enough conflict! Working on that...